Advice for Young Bulls

I am a man in my early 40s who acted as a bull when I was between 18-28 years of age. I consider myself retired now as I have not actively participated in the lifestyle as a bull for years. Still, those years as a bull were among the most enjoyable of my life. I was successful because I avoided the pitfalls that ensnared other bulls. I see young bulls today stumbling into the same pitfalls and wish to share how I avoided them. Though wordy, this post outlines the process I used to become a successful bull.

When I started as a bull, I had limited success. That was because I was making the same set of mistakes that all the other bulls were making at that time; we were almost exclusively focused on connecting with existing cuckold couples. Bulls would try unlikely approaches such as showing up at swingers’ bars by themselves and attempting to find a married woman to sleep with. The idea of showing up at a swinger bar alone is comical by itself, and it also ignores the fundamental differences between the cuckold and swinger lifestyles. Alternatively, bulls would post or respond to personal ads online only to drive hundreds of miles to be stood up or not find a suitable match.

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The Science of Cuckoldry

By sex therapist & relationships counselor Susan Gower

After studying human sexuality for many years it has become inarguable to me that a cuckold relationship (in which the wife engages in sexual activity with a variety of men while her husband remains faithful) is most compatible with basic human evolutionary make up. It is straying from this evolutionarily grounded human bonding relationship that has produced such misunderstandings and conflict between the sexes.cuck

At the very base of this principle is the understanding of a woman’s psychological need for a variety of sex partner’s. Psychologically, women are hardwired differently than men.

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