1. Lots of men are into the idea of conquest. But, once they are married they miss the thrill of the chase. Knowing you are sometimes in another man’s arms spikes a healthy jealousy that many men find arousing and makes them feel like they need to “reclaim” you, which can put the spice back in your marriage.
2. Scientific studies suggest that when a woman is cheating or has multiple partners, she gives off different pheromones than when she is in a committed relationship. These pheromones are designed to rev up her partner’s libido. It doesn’t matter if you are using birth control; he’s evolutionarily hard wired to want to become part of a natural “sperm competition.”
3. Many men are naturally submissive, or at least crave temporary submissive roles. For them, mild forms of humiliation are an aphrodisiac. The fantasy element for them is the jealousy, and wondering if you may prefer your lovers.
4. Other men become excited because it validates their wives or girlfriends as desirable sexual creatures. And, what could be better for a man’s ego than his partner demonstrating that she can be with someone else, but still choosing to stay with him?
5. Then there are the guys for whom it’s like having their own personal pornography. They want to watch from the closet, or hear you on the phone. Think about it – he may make love to you all the time, but when does he ever get to see you make love?
6. Finally, there are the men who enjoy it because they feel it brings them closer to their partners. Guys aren’t dumb. They know that just like them, you have your own sexual fantasies and desires. But, they also know that many women won’t tell their partner about the hot pool boy or new personal trainer because they are worried he will get jealous. Bringing your lustful desires out into the open – and even acting on them – can bring a new level of intimacy and openness to your relationship. By hearing about your amorous adventures, he’ll discover new ways to please you.